So, she’s obsessed with princesses and you’re afraid that’s a problem. We understand, you want your little girl to grow up strong, gone are the days when parents encouraged their daughters to wait for a good husband to rescue them from their woes; no damsels in distress around here, thank you very much. But these days we believe she can have her tiara and wear it too, and still grow up with values mom and dad can be proud of. It’s time to move princess worship into the 21st century. Being a modern day princess has less to do with having a pretty face and more to do with your inner strength and beauty. And who doesn’t support that?
Start by showing her that every Princess is unique, intelligent and special, just like her! Encourage her to discover what kind of princess she is. What are the things that make her special? Is she a philanthropist? Every good princess cares about her kingdom after all. Talk about what it means to have the power to help people and the responsibility that goes with it. Next time she gets on her gown ask her how she would help make the world a better place. Would she make a rainbow machine that she would turn on whenever someone needed a smile? Maybe she would grow a forest for all her squirrel friends to live in. See what we mean? The possibilities are endless; help her discover her own unique abilities or let her adopt a new identity everyday.
Concentrating on what princesses do instead of just what they wear will take her imaginative play to the next level and help her discover other interests. If she wants to create rainbows, let her know that with a little bit of science she can create rainbows whenever she wants, for the forest lover, maybe her interests lie in botany or forestry.
Help her to see that her favorite princesses are special not because of the crown, the dress or a flawless updo, but because of their kindness, bravery, strength and wisdom. Review some of her favorite princesses and take note of their interests and their achievements: Belle was adventurous and loved to read her bravery and selflessness saved not only her father, but an entire kingdom. Ariel’s an amateur anthropologist: a female Indiana Jones, risking life and limb to salvage little pieces of history who will stop at nothing to find her place in the world. Tiana’s passion leads her to defy the odds and open her own business, her work ethic and determination are qualities anyone can admire. Concentrate on who these women are and what makes them special. These are strong, independent women who take their lives into their own hands!
And princesses are only getting stronger. Take a look at Cartoon Network’s Adventure Time featuring robust role models like Princess Bubblegum, who loves and cares for all her subjects and rocks both lab-coat and keen mind, or Flame Princess who touts a kingdom of honesty and packs some serious fire-power. These ladies rule! Look at Disney’s newest masterpiece Frozen. These ladies save themselves, literally! And they do it by breaking out of the confined roles society set out for them. They became more than stereotypes.
There’s plenty of room in this world for more princesses. The question is what kind of princess will she be? Will she care for animals? Will she rescue her kingdom and save the world? Will she open a school to educate her subjects? Will she hunt for treasure in the deepest corner of every cave? Will she undertake a dangerous journey to help friends and family? Whatever she decides, we know it will be a wonderful adventure. So the next time she reaches for her tiara, help teach her everything she can do with it; the places she can go, the things she can accomplish and the people she can help.
Just you watch; princesses are gonna change the world.